Heart Chakra, Third Eye Chakra, Throat Chakra

Random Journaling…

As human beings, we all have our own values, beliefs and attitudes that we have developed throughout the course of our lives. Our family, friends, community and the experiences we have had all contribute to our sense of who we are and how we view the world. I can honestly say I don’t take notice to when I’m being bias towards another racial group. The action of being bias lies subconsciously within many hues. The actions that proceed the subconscious enters past the realm of being bias and becomes determinative.
I’ve gather affirmation on my inner beliefs on the topic of diversity. I believe race, in its true nature is a social construct. The perceptions of differences stemming from race are ingrained into humans throughout their life. Stereotypes as well as biases are results of non-substantiated assumptions made based on race. This belief spans globally, due to the diversity that exist worldwide.
I treat everyone with respect and kindness despite any racial or cultural differences. Asserting color blindness is numbing to diversity and the unique nature of others. I believe that the embracing of each other’s individual upbringing disperses negative connotations that were prematurely made. I do not make assumptions about a person or individual group until I have verified the facts on my own. I believe actions taken towards prevalent discrimination should be precautionary and not reactionary.
These factors will contribute to my counseling techniques in a positive manner, by establishing a foundation for interaction with diverse clientele. Instilling respect and appropriation for understanding different cultures I may delve into when counseling.

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Sacral Chakra, Third Eye Chakra, Throat Chakra

Do high expectations set you up for disappointments?

We all have expectations in our lives. Me personally I have expectations of myself and others. I do believe having expectation can affects ones happiness, if you allow it to. The easiest thing people can say is to not have expectations of others, but my thing is whether you’re my friend, family member, significant other, dog, cat, if i put a certain effort into something based off of our relationship I’m going to “want” the same effort back. I was told ” the nature of relationships shows that one might give more and others might or might not, everyone behavior is different”. I try to always put a lot of effort into a relationship doesn’t matter which one it is and as stated before I “would like” the same in return. Sometimes I live up to my expectations and others usually don’t, but that’s okay! Just because you shoot for the  stars doesn’t means others will be willing to do the same. My co-worker stated that he always have high expaectations of people he surround himself by and whether or not they meet his expecatations, he never give up, he keeps trying. I thinks its great to have high expaectations, holding not only yourself but others to a high standard pushes everyone to be a better person. Most people perform their best when living up to high expectations. When people don’t live up to my expectations I am slightly disappointed, but that’s my issue not theirs and no one should be penalized for it. I can’t change a person or judge them for not living up to what I wanted them too, because at the end of the daythey don’t owe me anything. You learn a person flaws and who they are when expectations are put in place, that doesn’t mean become disappointed with them. It’s all a learning experience!  So its okay to have low or high expectations and there’s nothing wrong with being the one who often goes above and beyond all the time. I love knowing that I put my best effort into something whether I get what i want back or not. My attempt to the goal was enough satisfaction to keep myself pleased. So never be disappointed when people don’t live p to “your” expectations, just be great and continue aiming high!

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Crown Chakra, Solar Chakra

Deep Cleanse

IMG_2362Okay so I know this picture looks absolutely gross, but this is what I’ve been dealing with my ENTIRE life. Scalp psoriasis is a mother**** I tell you! I have random outbreaks so I never know when my scalp is going to feel inflamed which is completely annoying, and the dermatologist prescribe medicated items that just make things a lot worse. What pissed me off the most was my stylist knew and was aware of my outbreak, she did absolutely nothing to treat my hair. A few days later this crap happened!  I’m still trying to learn the triggers though, so I’m trying to reduce my stress level and watch what I eat of course.

My boss and a few co-workers of mine recommended that I do a deep cleanse that would assist me with the dreadful problem, The famous apple cider vinegar/baking soda rinse, she stated that it was the best way to deep clean my locs. Sooo I decided to try it because I was tired of wearing freaking head wraps and feeling dirty knowing my scalp was producing a large amount of dandruff.

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I already had the apple cider vinegar because I like to drink it with some water. I already had the baking soda as well because I use it to make a face mask.. So yeah the only thing that was purchase was th lemon! I did my research of course and watched some YouTube vides to make sure this was completely safe, because I didn’t want any surprises.

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I took some pictures of the water as I added the ingredient into it, for those who want to try this don’t be puzzled of the water changes like I was lol because that’s apart of the whole experiment. But in these two picture it’s just showing how the water looks after I added the lemon.

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So of course online they give you the proportion sizes of the amount your suppose to add in the water, but who actually follows directions?? lol I know I don’t. In this picture I put what I thought was a decent amount of the vinegar and baking soda in the water. If the water starts to bubble that’s a norm, nothing drastic will happen. I also added some tea tree oil to the mix as well.

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I soaked my locs for 15 minutes the first time (I repeated this method twice) and the second time for about 30 minutes. This is how the water looked when I was done the second time. My hair was extremely dirty, three years worth of build up and recent dandruff… gross I know… Trying this cleanse not only cleaned my scalp and reduce the irritation of my scalp but it also, got rid of all the lent that was caught in my locs. I immediately conditioned my hair with a coconut deep conditioner afterward because baking soda will make your hair dry and brittle. Then I put a mix of tea tree oil, Jamaican black castro oil and raw coconut oil in my hair while drying it so ensure that my hair is moisturized.

 

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Crown Chakra, Solar Chakra

Loc’Versary

I’m a little late on some post I’ve been extremely busy and I have zero time management skills.

As of July 13, 2017, marks three years of my Loc journey. These three years has been tough, but it taught me how to love myself unconditionally. When I started my locs I was excited to have them, until no one around me ever had anything nice to say about them. My self-esteem hit rock bottom and I constantly questioned if I made a mistake. The thought of cutting my hair off and starting over just wasn’t an option for me anymore. As the process progressed I started to hate how I looked and I felt completely hideous…. Every day I received unacceptable comments from my friends, family and even my work place. It’s like when you meet someone new the first thing they look at was my hair I felt like I didn’t fit in anywhere. A year passed, then they began to grow on me, I had my days where I would stare at myself in the mirror for hours practicing positive statements (e.g “Fatima you are a beautiful black queen”). At one point, I was wearing make-up excessively to make up for my insecurities and everyone who knows me know I’m not a huge fan of make-up. Second year came around and I started not to care about what others thought, my dad had Locs my entire life and as a Rastamon he never tried to fit into society means. Growing up in mix cultural family no matter where in the world whether in Jamaica or here in American having locs were never accepted, they are considered dreadful, dirty and whatever else people came up with. He told me I had to start loving myself in order to feel real beauty. My dad and I aren’t really so his advice meant a lot to me, yet he was the only one who ever made me feel good about my journey. My locs started to grow longer every couple of months and after a while the compliments started, at this point I didn’t care if anyone had something mean or nice to say about my hair. I am completely in love with my Locs and how I look with them. There’s nothing dreadful about my locs and I am quick to comment when people refer to my hair as “dreadlocks”
I am my hair and pretty girls do Loc!

 

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