Crown Chakra, Solar Chakra

Loc’Versary

I’m a little late on some post I’ve been extremely busy and I have zero time management skills.

As of July 13, 2017, marks three years of my Loc journey. These three years has been tough, but it taught me how to love myself unconditionally. When I started my locs I was excited to have them, until no one around me ever had anything nice to say about them. My self-esteem hit rock bottom and I constantly questioned if I made a mistake. The thought of cutting my hair off and starting over just wasn’t an option for me anymore. As the process progressed I started to hate how I looked and I felt completely hideous…. Every day I received unacceptable comments from my friends, family and even my work place. It’s like when you meet someone new the first thing they look at was my hair I felt like I didn’t fit in anywhere. A year passed, then they began to grow on me, I had my days where I would stare at myself in the mirror for hours practicing positive statements (e.g “Fatima you are a beautiful black queen”). At one point, I was wearing make-up excessively to make up for my insecurities and everyone who knows me know I’m not a huge fan of make-up. Second year came around and I started not to care about what others thought, my dad had Locs my entire life and as a Rastamon he never tried to fit into society means. Growing up in mix cultural family no matter where in the world whether in Jamaica or here in American having locs were never accepted, they are considered dreadful, dirty and whatever else people came up with. He told me I had to start loving myself in order to feel real beauty. My dad and I aren’t really so his advice meant a lot to me, yet he was the only one who ever made me feel good about my journey. My locs started to grow longer every couple of months and after a while the compliments started, at this point I didn’t care if anyone had something mean or nice to say about my hair. I am completely in love with my Locs and how I look with them. There’s nothing dreadful about my locs and I am quick to comment when people refer to my hair as “dreadlocks”
I am my hair and pretty girls do Loc!

 

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Heart Chakra, Root Chakra, Solar Chakra, Third Eye Chakra, Throat Chakra

Day 3

Word choice: Beyond, Circumstance, Joy

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I try to never let negative people and horrible circumstances steal my joy. One bad situation can bring stress upon anyone and how you react to it determines your emotional state. I read a book by Robert Schram called “Maximize Life by Living for Peace, Harmony and Joy.” In this book, her states “bring joy to wherever you go and do not react to circumstances. You make your own circumstances and can change those that discourage, or bring you and others down” (Schram, pp. 281). He helped me realize that no matter the circumstances are every situation has potential to bring gratitude and happiness to your life. Nowadays I attempt shed light on everything even if it’s the hardest thing to do. Be the light and shine light one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Sacral Chakra, Solar Chakra, Third Eye Chakra, Throat Chakra

Seven Days of Affirmations

I’m doing the seven days of affirmations presented by the lovely journalist Alex Elle.
Its day two and I am a bit behind on the challenged but better late than never right! As a counselor, I educate my clients on gratitude journals and positive affirmations, but never really took the time to try it out myself so here it goes. It’s not easy to think of positive things to say and I never really say anything positive about myself.
Dates: 7/17-7/24

Day1: Word choice are Love, Prevails and Trials

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Life is a big method of trial and error. Some people tend to be discourage when they have attempted to do something and failed in the process. Personally, I keep trying until the success is achieved but some people might just give up. Example of Trial and Error in my life: Last post I talked about going biking, now I didn’t know how to ride the bike but I kept trying until it became natural to ride. Some things in life require you to fail, it’s simply a lesson. Just because you failed at doing something doesn’t make you a failure but it should motivate the person to want to do better or at least learn from their experiences.

Day2: Word choice Hurt, Healing, Forward

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If you ever been hurt your bound to feel vulnerable, it’s natural. I’ve been hurt several times and angry with everyone. I decided to be miserable and dwelled on being hurt than trying to move forward. When your hurt you tend to feel stuck in one place and you get nowhere. I used to question how do I get through this? where so I start in order to move forward? why am I not strong enough? Or often compared my misery to others. Healing isn’t an easy process, but if learn ways to cope with your emotions or have a support circle it can be. Choose progression and growth over any obstacle in life.

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Third Eye Chakra

“New Beginnings”

This week I developed a new motto, well more like a phrase that sums up my explanation for my actions. “New Beginnings” has been my answer for everything this week.

Now before my “new beginnings” journey, I was so wrapped up in the wrong things and associated with the wrong people. For a long time, I felt like everything was taking a complete toll on me, from bad relationships, friendships, professional relationships, etc.. The list could go on. I instantly became overwhelmed with life changes and often felt depressed, but mostly alone. So, I decided to sit down, meditate, and have a long discussion with myself and some higher being. I concluded that I wanted a change!

I woke up the next morning and felt different. I sat in my car and before I know it I changed my number and deleted my WhatsApp account, my mind was moving so fast. I felt great for some reason  and nothing mattered anymore, I had a different attitude, different perception on how I wanted to live my life and the people I want to share my energy with.

This week has been amazing thus far, every day I woke up with feeling better and better. Now usually when I change my number I send out a mass text, but this time I can count my hand how many individuals have my number out of family and friends.

I came across a quote I noticed that was weirdly already my Whatsapp account status when I created a new one. The quote “I am thankful for those who left me. Because they taught me I can do it alone”- Chanakya. Clearly the person previously associated with my new number was in my head!!

I began to evaluate my life as I did the other day, but this time instead of being sappy I was thankful. Without those tremendous hurdles, loss of friendships, jobs, and better half’s, I will not be the strong individual I am currently or at least trying to be.  

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